Noisy Neighbors: How to Deal With Them When You Work From Home

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One of the downsides of web working is that you’re prone to distractions at home, whether it’s the snacks calling to you from the fridge or a toddler throwing tantrums.  I experience these distractions everyday and have found ways around most of them.  My most important “weapon against mass distractions”, so to speak, was to wake up at 2:00am and work while the rest of the neighborhood sleeps.

Except for my new neighbors, of course.  They moved in last week and, since then, it’s been one loud evening after another.

The first thing I attempted was to talk to them.  When they opened their door, it became evident that there were no serious adults to talk to.  The people spread out in the living room looked at most 20 years old, and there were a few beer bottles lying around.  The karaoke machine was on at full blast, blaring out “Close to You” by The Carpenters.  I asked for the owner of the house and a young woman, I’m guessing she was 17, came up to me.  I said the little speech that I’ve been practicing in my head:

1064039_gas_horn“Listen, I don’t want to cramp on your fun, but I usually work at around this time and the rest of the neighbors are asleep.  I know parties are fun and everything, but this has been going on all week.  Do you mind toning it down a little so I can get some work done and everyone else can sleep peacefully?”

She gave me a blank look and said “Why don’t you just work in the morning?”

“I would, but it’s noisier in the morning because the neighborhood kids are running around, all my pets are awake…Uhm, where are your parents?”

At around this time their little party starts quieting down a bit and the others start looking at me.  Then she agreed to lessen the noise.   As I walked away, I overheard one of her guests making a quip about how I was overreacting.

The following night, it became evident that our little conversation didn’t work.  In the Philippines, calling the police because of neighborhood noise won’t be taken seriously, so that option is out.  This time, I resort to headphones and Puccini.

It works out well – at first.  Then I realized that the music was too powerful for the piece I was writing, so I played some acoustic jazz.  But as the hours wore on, I realized that I was spending too much time rearranging my MP3 files to complement whatever it was I was working on.

Here’s what didn’t work: my first solution was to try and get my neighbor to change.  This left my peace of mind in their hands. The trouble with this approach was that I still had no control over how to fix the problem, and they don’t care about my problem even if they are the ones causing it.  After all, I’m not giving them any inconvenience.

My second attempt was to fight fire with fire.  I was hoping that by playing my own music directly into my ears, I would cancel out the neighbor’s karaoke machine and loud voices. What I actually ended up doing was creating more distractions for myself, giving myself more stimuli to fight.

Today I’m trying something new.  I remembered that on a recent trip, I got a pair of complimentary earplugs from an airline.  I took those out of the drawer and placed them on my ears.  While I can still hear a slight murmur from the neighbor’s karaoke machine, it’s not too distracting.

This solution is the simplest, since all it involves is the earplugs, which I can take out of my drawer anytime I want.  I’m letting the neighbors go on with their lives, while I go on with my work.  I basically found a solution that is within my control, no matter what the outside world does.

In “The Art of Learning”, Josh Waitzkin introduced a chapter with this quote: “To walk a thorny road, we may cover its every inch with leather or we can make sandals.”  I guess that’s what I’m doing by wearing earplugs.  I’m making sandals.

How do you cope with noisy neighbors as a web worker?  Are they understanding of the fact that you work from home?  Do you have any suggestions for other web workers with noisy neighbors?

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kim

I understand and can appreciate what you mean by not leaving your peace in their hands but I couldn’t help but feel ever growing resentment for my own neighbors reading this – I don’t WANT to wear ear plugs every single time I want a little quiet! Adding white noise isn’t helping – I need to hear the alarm clock or someone at the door during the day. I’d like to listen to my own music or TV while I work without the constant base beat behind everything I do….. Why is it necessary for them to play the stereo that loud on their OPEN patio to enjoy it? Why can’t THEY do something about the base noise pollution? They have to be the most inconsiderate noise producing people I have ever met – if its not the pulsing base from their stereo for hours & hours then its the parties, or their beer soaked daughter yapping with her friends in the front yard at 1am, or the parents screaming at each other when she’s not home or it’s the constant traffic to & from their house complete with revving truck engines. Seriously these people pressure washed their house all day on Thanksgiving DAY last year – who pressure washes their house on thanksgiving DAY?

Sorry for the rant but I just have no patience for the infringement and I am frustrated endlessly with this – I’ve spoken with them, I’ve written letters, I’ve complained to the city and called the police… seems like the only thing left to do is sell the house, take the loss and move.

Nobody Special

As a foreigner living in the Philippines I’ve had to deal with roosters crowing at crazy hours of the night (in Makati), noisy neighbors doing exactly as described in this blog post, and people routinely burning their rubbish rather than sticking it in the bin like rational human beings.

Here’s what worked for me. I personally went to the police station and said “I would like to make a formal complaint” – they directed me to the barangay – off I went to the barangay, the barangay tailed me to the offenders and sorted them out.

Usually they halt the undesirable activity for a few days, then it starts again – fortunately I have documentation all typed up from the barangay, so I have my attorney write them a friendly letter which I personally deliver. (This is not cheap, but for my own peace of mind, it’s worth it)

The letter from the attorney indicating legal action will ensue should they not cease and desist tends to halt these activities either permanently or for several weeks. If it starts up again, I have actually taken neighbors to court. In all cases there are laws about disturbing the peace.

A note about the Police: It is their DUTY to handle this type of complaint. If they don’t, you can file a blotter against them. Sometimes it’s easier to go to the Barangay since they tend to be the first line of mediation.

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