Comments on: Sandwich Pause Trick When Talking to Real People http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/ Fri, 25 May 2012 16:59:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Nerd Guru » Blog Archive » The Sandwich Pause Trick http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69210 Sun, 23 Mar 2008 15:40:13 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69210 [...] folks over at Web Worker Daily were kind enough to run an article I wrote for them entitled “Sandwich Pause Trick When Talking to Real People“. Take a look, you’ll find it is similar to the kinds of material that appears in this [...]

]]> By: links for 2008-03-15 http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69209 Sat, 15 Mar 2008 05:23:51 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69209 [...] Sandwich Pause Trick Build natural pauses into conversation and create an extra few seconds to formulate difficult answers simply by taking a bite of food or drink of coffee when a question is asked. (tags: business body language nonverbal psychology) [...]

]]> By: Use a Sandwich or Coffee to Give Thoughtful Answers [Speaking] » Lifehacker, tips and downloads for getting things done http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69208 Thu, 13 Mar 2008 08:56:56 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69208 [...] performance review or uber-frustrating meeting, rather than spilling forth with under-cooked ideas. Sandwich Pause Trick When Talking to Real People [Web Worker [...]

]]> By: Use a Sandwich or Coffee to Give Thoughtful Answers [Speaking] | net is everything http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69207 Sat, 08 Mar 2008 11:01:48 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69207 [...] performance review or uber-frustrating meeting, rather than spilling forth with under-cooked ideas. Sandwich Pause Trick When Talking to Real People [Web Worker [...]

]]> By: Elyse http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69206 Fri, 07 Mar 2008 19:01:36 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69206 I have long been interested in non-verbal messaging. In fact, I think some of the most important messages are non-verbal and can be noticed only when one is so in the moment keenly focused on what a person says and does,that the most extreme “listening” occurs on a supersensory level. Call it
esp or intuition, I think some people
are great at behavioral observation.

Elyse
Editor-in-Chief
http://www.boomercoffeehouse.com

]]> By: Elyse http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69205 Fri, 07 Mar 2008 18:59:01 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69205 I have long been interested in non-verbal messaging. In fact, I think some of the most important messages are non-verbal and can be noticed only when one is so in the moment keenly focused on what a person says and does,that the most extremem “listening” occurs on a supersensory level. Cal it
esp or intuition, I th ink some people
are great at behavioral observation.

Elyse
Editor-in-Chief
http://www.boomercoffeehouse.com

]]> By: Use a Sandwich or Coffee to Give Thoughtful Answers [Speaking] · TechBlogger http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69204 Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:18:44 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69204 [...] performance review or uber-frustrating meeting, rather than spilling forth with under-cooked ideas. Sandwich Pause Trick When Talking to Real People [Web Worker [...]

]]> By: Mike Watson http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69203 Thu, 06 Mar 2008 16:11:53 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69203 Pete, you are a veritable genius. I speak in seminars for a living and reading body language is truly an art. Watching people and their physiological responses to external stimuli can tell one a lot. I too have used the sandwich pause on occasion and find it to be another arrow in my business quiver. Thanks for the insight!

]]> By: jon paul davies http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69202 Wed, 05 Mar 2008 09:50:55 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69202 Controlling the pace of a conversation is a classic way of asserting dominance. These kind of techniques don’t come naturally to people so it’s cool to have them pointed out to you. Nice article!

]]> By: Kevin Adamson http://gigaom.com/collaboration/sandwich-pause-trick-when-talking-to-real-people/#comment-69201 Wed, 05 Mar 2008 01:32:35 +0000 http://webworkerdaily.com/?p=1841#comment-69201 This is a classic trick for pacing conversation. When I imagine it in practice I keep thinking of Jules from “Pulp Fiction” drinking Brett’s entire Big Kahuna Sprite in one sip when trying to create a dramatic pause in his interrogation cadence (before quoting Ezekiel 25:17 and shooting him). Might be an esoteric reference, but pretty funny if you think of it in relation to this technique.

I’ve been trying to get better at being comfortable with silent eye contact during business and personal conversations(you know, for when I don’t have a sandwich handy…). I concentrate on not looking away from people’s eyes while trying to formulate my answers and while actually speaking them.

I realized how important this was when I was speaking with a girl I met recently who kept staring at my shoulder when she would respond to my questions. I didn’t really know her well enough to ask her if I had a Tony Montana-sized mountain of white stuff on my shoulder, but it got so bad that I had to ask anyway. She just said she had trouble with eye contact because she had inferiority issues and that I was dandruff-free. What a relief… And what an insight into her personality. And I learned a very valuable lesson about what type of messages my own conversation habits were sending.

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