i find your tips very useful & accurate. dealing with a narcissist is a nightmare – there is simply no other thing one can do than leave them & avoid contacting them. unfortunately, i have a child with this man…so, things will be good the day he dies..but until then, i just want to be safe from the wicked & sicko mind he has.

this is such a nut case & the difference between a narcissist and a psychopath is that, narcissists feed on people while psychopaths dont.

We had the non-apology the other day from our agent, I tried to explain that I wasn’t interested in hearing her apologise for my feelings, and I got the whole martyr thing ‘I am trying to apologise but YOU won’t accept it, so see, I am right AGAIN!!’. Cue violins.

Its pathetic, and its a waste of time trying to argue with them. Generally, I say as little as possible and allow her to dig herself into a big ditch which she inevitably does because she isn’t very good at her job, and pretends she is gracious and professional but comes off looking like a pretentious snob.

The other day, I finally lost my temper after six months of saying nothing about the subtle put-downs and the amused tone of voice whenever I have to draw her attention to an error she has made. We argued for twenty minutes and at the end of the argument, she simply drew my attention back to her opening statement as though the last twenty minutes didn’t even happen. This is also textbook narcissism in action.

The best thing to do is SHUN these people (like the non-beliver Charlie the Unicorn) from all meetings, conference calls, projects, and invites. Don’t even let them know what’s going on, because they’ll hijack everyone and lead things off course. Eventually, they’re so OUT of the loop that they can’t do any more damage. If they ask why they weren’t involved, you simply say, “This is so beneath you, I didn’t think it was worth wasting your time when you’re busy with other things.” Instant deflection!