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I know, I know — it’s a bit presumptuous of me to think I can write the “10 Golden Rules of Social Media.” Then again, I’ve been online since 1987, consulting clients on the Internet since 1992, on the web since 1994, immersed in working on and speaking about the web since the mid-90s, so I do feel like I’ve paid some dues and learned some lessons along the way.

So here are my 10 Golden Rules of Social Media to embrace, debate, pass around and refine. Have at it.

People's mandala - 12 handsI know, I know — it’s a bit presumptuous of me to think I can write the “10 Golden Rules of Social Media.” Then again, I’ve been online since 1987, consulting clients on the Internet since 1992, on the web since 1994, immersed in working on and speaking about the web since the mid-1990s, so I do feel like I’ve paid some dues and learned some lessons along the way.

So here are my 10 Golden Rules of Social Media to embrace, debate, pass around and refine. Have at it.

1. Respect the Spirit of the ‘Net. Since 1995, I’ve been writing about and talking about what I call the “Spirit of the ‘Net.” The Internet was not meant for marketing and selling but for communication and connection to people and information. Understanding this, even today, can flip your marketing and selling strategy on its head, but you’ll have far more success respecting the spirit of the ‘Net, rather than throwing money at hard-sell tactics.

2. Listen. In the ’90s, the Golden Rule of posting to a Usenet Newsgroup or other online community was to listen first before speaking. Listening thoughtfully gives you a better sense of not only what people are saying but also how they are feeling. In virtual spaces where there are no visual cues, good listening skills become a powerful asset. Listening also helps you map out your current social media footprint and measure your marketing campaigns over time. The key to successful social media marketing is listening.

3. Add Value. Enter any online conversation with the aim of adding value. Before posting a message as a new participant in a forum, ask yourself: How is this providing value to the conversation? To the community? In some circles, talking about your product or service can be considered valuable, but in most, it is unwelcome and intrusive.

4. Respond. From the early days of setting up the first web presences for clients such as Origins and Dr. Atkins, my company outlined the importance of timely responses to any feedback or queries generated from those sites. The burden of response can be great, but it can be lessened by using the right tools and crowdsourcing answers. A quick response is more important than ever, and thanks to search tools, alert apps and other services, it is possible to achieve. Don’t be a dam in a conversation flow.

5. Do Good Things. Back in the ’90s, a mentor and dear friend — Jerry Colonna — talked about “doing well by doing good,” sparking in me the confidence to build a successful business with an underlying mission to help others. Doing good things can really help you to succeed in social media, too. Just do a Google search for Social Media for Social Good to see the power of this movement. This goes beyond adding value online. It means fundamentally changing your business model from a single bottom line — profit — to a triple bottom line — people, planet, profit — and then perpetuating this social responsibility to all you do in business, including online marketing and selling. I’m working with a financial client right now who truly believes in doing good. My client’s messages and conversations around social good are getting much more traction than the regular financial messages.

6. Share the Wealth. When I used to talk about the Internet around the world, one key tenet I repeated almost every time was to share the wealth. “If you’ve got it, share it, spread it around,” I’d say, but I wasn’t only talking about money. I was talking about time, information and knowledge. In social media, sharing is the fuel of the conversation engine.

7. Give Kudos. Social media works when you are generous. There is nothing wrong with self-promotion, but things really take off when you give others praise or a moment in the spotlight. The rise of retweeting — real retweeting, not spammy retweeting — shows how far giving credit to others can go in social spaces.

8. Don’t Spam. And speaking of spam, there is also an ugly surge of spamming in social media, today’s equivalent of unscrupulous email marketers who inundated our email boxes with garbage and left a bad taste in our mouths for email marketing. On Twitter, I’m finding it a daily chore to delete people I’m following who send out spam messages, but I just don’t have the time, interest or bandwidth to tolerate the “Get Lots of Followers on Autopilot” spam.

9. Be Real. Authenticity is the secret ingredient behind any good and valuable social media marketing campaign. If you know your audience, locate them online, listen, add value, respond, refrain from spamming and just be yourself, you’ll have far better and more long-lasting positive results than if you try to be someone — or something — you’re not.

10. Collaborate. Before you dive into social media for marketing and selling, take a look at who is out there and who is doing it well. How can you work with them, instead of trying to muscle your way into the space with all of your dollars? Those will often be dollars wasted because people can feel that push and recoil from the hard sell, blog about your misstep, sign petitions to boycott your company, you name it. If you put your money in places where it can do good while generating goodwill for your brand, you’ll be much more likely to get a positive result from social media.

Social media tools are only that — tools. The real energy, spirit and power of social media is people. We are social media.

What are your Golden Rules of Social Media? What am I missing?

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  1. Very insightful teachings there, I really enjoyed it!

    I would especially want to be the person who spread good and happy news, instead of bad ones. This is maybe one of my personal branding strategies, spread positive news and it gives out good vibes to my readers. And, always try to be the first to announce it.

    As for bad/negative ones, let others hog the 1st position, but add calming and positive reframe (comments) to the challenging news.

    Regards,
    Al

  2. adivinestudio Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Love it! Great list, especially the first point.

    I believe that many of forgotten the spirit in which the ‘Net was founded. And the younger generation needs to be schooled in this spirit so as not to let it fall by the wayside.

  3. John Bottom Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Well said Sir. If everyone did this, the online world would be a nicer place.
    John

  4. Anya Clowers, RN Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Great post – thanks for the words of wisdom.

    I agree and tell others to view social media like a dinner party. Mingle with the guests until a conversation fits – contribute when valuable, relate as a fellow human who genuinely cares and don’t assume a business card is wanted or needed in the conversation.

  5. Shanky Baba Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    I had compiled my own: 7 Essential Twitter Netiquettes … check out @ http://bawaal.com/blog/?p=122

  6. Thank you! These are all great social media golden rules!I really like #2 as you stated it is hard to really listen online so it is important to pause and read again if you need to before responding! And “doing well by doing good” is a perfect golden rule for us all to adopt!
    Mimi

  7. Social Media Evangelist Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Why just online, if everybody follows these rules, the world will be a nicer place to live!

    On another page, maybe following these rules online will lead to a better world as online you get penalized easily, and that experience may teach the world the values of etiquettes.

    Manish Pahuja

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  11. Adam Pieniazek Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Whether it’s presumptuous of you or not, I think you really hit the nail with all these points. I’ve been on the web since ’96 and near immediately got involved with communities and interacting with web people. Unfortunately, I used a variety of pseudonyms and nicknames along the way and lost contact with a lot of the great people I met over the years.

    Looking back I wish I used my real name sooner and kept alive my presence and sites I created along the way. Still all the time devoted along the way and mistakes made really enforced the rules you set above. Especially your first rule about the spirit of the net. I call it the web culture but we’re talking about the same thing. Many people fail to grasp that the web is its own society as well as being integrated into many of the cultures around the world.

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  13. Michael Chin Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Nice work, Aliza.

    Is it too much of a stretch to say that this is really about being a decent person and becoming part of a community in a constructive way?

    Thanks for putting this together.

  14. bill kitchen Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Not presumptuous in the least.
    Very nice post.

  15. “The Internet was not meant for marketing and selling.” Uhh, maybe not when Tim Berners-Lee started it a few decades ago. It sure as hell is now – e-commerce is what drives a goodly portion of it.

    The mix of naivete and disingenuousness inherent in that statement is startling.

  16. davidschons Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Kinda ironic to be trying to read “the Internet was not meant for marketing and selling ..” while ads flash! Great post though.

  17. Aliza Sherman Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    “The Internet was not meant for marketing and selling.” Uhh, maybe not when Tim Berners-Lee started it a few decades ago. It sure as hell is now – e-commerce is what drives a goodly portion of it.

    The mix of naivete and disingenuousness inherent in that statement is startling.

    @mark – I was writing ABOUT the time when Tim started the Web. Yes, things have changed, but fundamentally, the Web was built on a non-commercial foundation and premise.

  18. Aliza Sherman Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Kinda ironic to be trying to read “the Internet was not meant for marketing and selling ..” while ads flash! Great post though.

    @davidschons – LOL, that is funny. Well, if you notice, I don’t say that ads on one’s web site are against any Golden Rules. I’m talking much more about push tactics. Someone can always surf away from a site or unsub from an email list (well, almost always) but when a marketer “invades” a non-commercial space, that would violate a Golden Rule.

  19. AreisDesigns Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Great Post! It is really too bad that most people don’t follow these. I hope this post reaches a lot of people. Although there are still a lot of unscrupulous spammers out there, I have noticed that a lot of my followers are pretty considerate, and if they aren’t, I block them :)

  20. Rock and Roll Mama Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Aliza- I love this list, especially the part about listening before engaging in conversations. I feel that as our methods of connection have become truncated, (Twitter, FB statuses) so often we get the impression of someone walking into a party and blurting disjointed sentences. Thanks for putting this together, and I’m going to try to remember them in my own interactions.

  21. Great post – so good in fact that the content stands on its own. I found the constant namedropping and references to your resume distracting and unnecessary. I’d agree with your conclusions regardless of your experience.

  22. Anthroyogini Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Thank you for this great post, and as one commenter above said, if we all did this, the world would be a much nicer place.

    I am going to print it out and put it on my wall for all to see.

  23. Thanks for the great post.

    Seriously great post. I’ll be doing my part in “sharing the wealth”

    And I love how the comments lead you to thinking about applying these rules not only to online interactions, but real life situations as well.

    Thanks!

  24. Sharon Harper Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Thanks

  25. art predator Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    great points! I esp appreciate 3 even as I find it not the easiest to do!

    on big question: how are you on WordPress.com with all these ads?

  26. Susan RoAne Tuesday, May 26, 2009

    Spot on! You made solid points and backed them up with cogent explanations. It boils down to having common sense, common courtesy and honoring the “Spirit” which is the same for face to face interactions.The internet has changed. Now,there is so much noise about “branding” ourselves, we ought to be more concerned about best behaviors. You provided the Golden Ones.
    Disclaimer: My newest book is Face to Face: How To Reclaim the Personal Touch in a Digital World which supports having both online and Offline connections.

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  28. Excellent! Well said, in every way. I’d add something else, but honestly, you’ve said it all, and way better than I could have done. And, as others here have also commented, your points would work for all aspects of life, and wouldn’t the world be a lot nicer if we all followed your ten internet commandments as well as that other ten?

  29. Great post!

    As many have said, these points should be applied to the offline world as well, but especially on the internet it seems like many people have a tunnel vision to their own agenda. I guess the “used car salesman” mentality permeates all mediums, but its proliferation on the internet really clouds a lot of the worthwhile dialogue that can be created.

    Thanks!

  30. Abrand Lincoln Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    Thank you for sharing the wealth :)

    I do think that the brands of the future will be more social and generous…”brands of the people, by the people, for the people”

    and we are not alone, check if you have time http://www.godsoftheinternet.com

  31. Gary Thoulouis Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    Thank you for sharing. All very relevant information for using Social media for communication or for marketing, and, as Manish Pahuja stated, a lot of these rules may be applied to life as well.

    However, I must agree with the Aliza and David and a little of my own thoughts. The internet is for everything. It is limitless and it is all inclusive, but, used correctly, it is the ultimate tool for selling and marketing because of an ability that is becoming a lot more popular – Search Engine Optimisation – SEO, or as I like to call it: Organic Marketing.

    The wonder of someone in Vancouver selling a very niche product or service to someone in Africa is the amazing reality of the internet today, and online sales of goods and services and online marketing revenue does not account for all online business. Consider how many goods and services are sold via online tools, but paid for offline (Real Estate, Cars, Boats) and how many people are paid for SEO, SEM, Website Development, Website Management.

    As a self confessed Utopist and a staunch believer in humans, I am all for the underlying beauty of your rules. However, Mark, you may have missed it, but the fact is that the INTERNET is open for business and has been for a while.

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  34. Very good article. I’ve been on the net for even longer than you but am only just now considering getting into marketing full time. This struck a real cord for me.

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  36. Aliza,
    I like this list because it gives a framework to this new place we interact and do part of our relationships. Some of these ideas seem like common sense, but hey we need reminders. I would emphasize authenticity and collaboration. When two people are honest and share, community happens.
    I’m interested in reading more about ‘The Spirit of the Net.’
    -Cheers

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    As a psychologist that is incredibly intrigued by social media I have to admit that I am constantly justifying the concept to my peers. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and I have already RT’d a million times. Your thoughts are essentially the standard framework for appropriate/effective interpersonal communication. People forget that the web is still a communicative method and that the same rules for effectiveness apply. As I gear up for my fall teaching, I look forward to incorporating the web into my interpersonal effectiveness curriculum–I would love to see some research re: how social media is impacting face to face communication…any thoughts?

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  40. Thanks to Joh Koerber Walker for turning me on to these thoughts. Very uplifting!

  41. Great article for networking! Your 10 rules transcend social media and should be 10 rules for networking. In that spirit I would alter #8 a bit to read- Do Not Sell. Do not see networking events as your chance to sell you rproduect to attendees.

  42. Mike Buttons of Hope Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    Excellent especially be real and add value – I’d add a #11 Create –too many folks are just pushing stuff around –it’s OK to a point but i think to be truly successful you have to create something original, be it a blog, videos etc — what ya think?

  43. Matthew Hardy Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    #11 Make more rules. We need more rules. No one should be counted on to find their own way. We need rules for rule-making. Rules rule.

  44. Catherine Cantieri, Sorted Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    Really like this post, and I agree with others that these rules can apply to offline life as well — in fact, the world would be a much better place if everyone kept them in mind no matter where they were!

    I think Gary makes a good point about how the opening of international commerce that the internet facilitates is part of the spirit of the Net. I know I’ve gotten a huge amount of value from the Net, and only some of it has come from free stuff.

  45. Aliza Sherman Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    Devi says: “Great post – so good in fact that the content stands on its own. I found the constant namedropping and references to your resume distracting and unnecessary. I’d agree with your conclusions regardless of your experience.”

    You called me on my dirty little secret… insecurity. Agreed that I probably didn’t need all those disclaimers.

  46. Aliza Sherman Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    Jaime Barclay says: “I would love to see some research re: how social media is impacting face to face communication…any thoughts?”

    Oooh, another post idea! I have lots of thoughts on that one.

    ———

    Mike Buttons says: “I’d add a #11 Create –too many folks are just pushing stuff around –it’s OK to a point but i think to be truly successful you have to create something original, be it a blog, videos etc — what ya think?”

    Totally agree. Creation is such a driving force in the power of social media – we all have the tools to create. We just need to do it with care.

    ———-

    Matthew Hardy says: “#11 Make more rules. We need more rules. No one should be counted on to find their own way. We need rules for rule-making. Rules rule.”

    You crack me up, Matthew. But I’m sure you realize the point of these “rules” is just to put into writing all the unspoken, unwritten but clearly important constructs we all (should) strive for. Since the beginning of Internet communications and community building (post-military), we’ve all set up our own rules or guidelines for our actions in cyberspace. Even deciding to always break rules is in and of itself a rule.

  47. Rule #34 – Have fun and help others do likewise. The word “social” implies a certain amount of enjoyability. Social drinks are important to business. A social round of golf is the beginning of many good ideas. Social Security and Socialism are about the only two negative ways to use the word social.

  48. I wish everyone would follow the etiquette. There are way too many people hawking themselves, their company online. Not very helpful content.

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  51. I’m from Belgium and I advise companies everyday on how to use social media for recruitment. And companies realy need these kind of rules, cause they think it’s just a new way of easy spamming. Nice post :)

  52. Aliza, I am also currently working with a client who operates on a triple bottom line and is striving for sustainability. they are http://www.e3bank.com as of a few years ago i never thought we’d be seeing companies in this industry going green great to see :)

  53. Very thoughtful original and comprehensive list. Practical and applicable.

    The triple bottom line concept – People, Planet and Profit – is fundamental to every business and has been underlined in positive way.

    Other cool things are about earning good will, playing well and sharing praise. Definitely nice.

    Important one is about listening and adding value to the social group. Instead of just throwing texts/business measures at it.

    Like it so much.

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  55. Ester Venouziou Wednesday, May 27, 2009

    Great list here. And it applies to pretty much everything in real life, too, not just the online world.

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    Aliza, terrific! Thanks for summarizing all your years of hands-on experience into something we can all use.

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  61. I couldn’t agree with this post more! It is always refreshing to see people who know how to build relationships online in a meaningful way. Everyday, I have to encourage clients with all my strength that it is better to have 1,000 people actually listening and interacting, than 10,000 people who can’t even remember what their brand is or why they started following/friending in the first place.

    Great post!

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  63. I might add…know your strategy. Knowing why you are involved in social media and what you are trying to accomplish might help someone to do all of these great things you have on your list.

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  67. Stephan,this is so valuable that I’m going to share it with all of my clients. Thank you for your generosity!!

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  71. I almost do many things that are mentioned here but I’m still not that good at social media. Maybe it just takes more practice than we would like to think.

  72. Aliza Sherman Thursday, May 28, 2009

    John Ray said: “Everyday, I have to encourage clients with all my strength that it is better to have 1,000 people actually listening and interacting, than 10,000 people who can’t even remember what their brand is or why they started following/friending in the first place.”

    Well said! I even tell clients 100 active, engaged listeners who respond to your calls to action – WAY more valuable than thousands of followers who ignore your tweets.

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  74. Joanna Duval Friday, May 29, 2009

    I’ve just taken a two year holiday out from the internet marketing world, so Twitter is a relatively new thing for me, but I’ve noticed that a lot of the people who are tweeting are just talking a complete load of garbage. I’m still trying to get my head around it.

    Already, from Twitter I have had many Spam attempts on my blog.
    I’m not interested in people advertising AT me.
    Yes, I send one email thanking my new Twitter followers for following me, and add a link to something useful, but I certainly don’t agree with using Twitter to just advertise at people, besides that kind of advertising doesn’t work anyway. Who wants anything from an advertiser-bot???

  75. Maria Marsala Friday, May 29, 2009

    Excellent article. I RT’d it

    I’m asked — by business owners — how much personal stuff to put on social networking sites. Here is my response

    Here’s one more group of tips:
    How do I determine how much personal to put into twitter or other social networking groups? I ask myself these questions:
    1) Would I be wiling to put this information into my bio?
    2) If this information were in the NY Times would it add to my brand or me as a well rounded professional who has a life after work?
    3) Is this helping to reach my ideal clients?

    HOW MUCH OF YOUR LIFE IS TOO MUCH TO SHARE ONLINE?
    When does sharing about one’s personal life on Twitter and Facebook cross the line and become too much information?
    http://p-i.com/business/405570_oversharing27.html?source=pimail

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    … The quality of this post can be gauged by the overwhelmingly positive response it’s received.

    Well done Aliza – great stuff – and a valuable guide to even a novice like me!

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  83. Lorraine Ball Sunday, May 31, 2009

    Great list. It is the same information I have seen elsewhere, but it is always good to see it again, and see the reasons why..

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  87. Really valuable content here! I believe in over delivering and helping your readers to gain valuable knowledge. As said above the net is all about information.
    Happy Gardening, Marty AGH

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  90. Agree about twitter. I find that 90% of all the stuff people put on twitter is just…Make money here..or Buy this there…Personally I think that you can market your products by actually reading what people say and then reply with value.

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  92. Crisis Communications for the Social Media Age Monday, June 1, 2009

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  93. Speedlinking – 10 Posts I Read Today | bloggersexpose.com Monday, June 1, 2009

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  94. ‘Live and let other live’ applies to social media perfectly.

  95. Speedlinking – 10 Posts I Read Today | money Monday, June 1, 2009

    [...] 10 Golden Rules of Social Media (basics but good rules to work by) [...]

  96. links for 2009-06-01 « Big Circumstance Monday, June 1, 2009

    [...] 10 Golden Rules of Social Media 10 tips to have a presence that is appreciated in social media. Interesting to see the values enshrined here. Many will be supported by Christians. (tags: socialnetworking socialmedia rules) [...]

  97. Speedlinking – 10 Posts I Read Today | Wizpress.com Monday, June 1, 2009

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    [...] 10 Golden Rules of Social Media (basics but good rules to work by) [...]

  99. Thanks. Excellent rules. Rule 5 relates very closely to the triple bottom line sustainability management model which deals with Economic, Social and Environmental Sustainability. This rule goes beyond Social Media but to very fabric of any business.

    Too often company was too focused on short term which typically means PROFIT which is pretty sad in my opinion.

  100. Social media plays a big helps on blogs… it builds trust to your visitors.

  101. » Blog Archive » Picking the right enterprise social media tools Wednesday, June 3, 2009

    [...] And while you are at it, it never hurts to abide by some of the golden rules of social media. [...]

  102. How People Respond To Content – 5 Posts I Read Today Speedlinking – Web Traffic Academy Wednesday, June 3, 2009

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  103. Some Posts I read today – Roger Stringer Thursday, June 4, 2009

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  104. 10 Golden Rules of Social Media « Suzanne LaChapelle’s Weblog Friday, June 5, 2009

    [...] Read full article > [...]

  105. Las 10 Reglas de oro del Social Media – Richard Johnson Hurtado Friday, June 5, 2009

    [...] En este artículo que brevemente traduzco, Aliza Sherman entrega 10 normas de oro para el Social Media. [...]

  106. Speedlinking – 10 Posts I Read Today | Sine Muzik Saturday, June 6, 2009

    [...] 10 Golden Rules of Social Media (basics but good rules to work by) [...]

  107. Great rules! Actually these are all based on common sence and apply to life in general no matter what corner of the world you look into. Or what times in history you look into. Some people think it is naive to believe in the good, but all of us do have a responsibility to not only save the planet by environmental sustainability but to save the human dignity by ethical sustainability. This is a good list of behaviors. I have a dream that this kind of “spreading the good stuff” could be done beyond social media and cross the borders of languages in realtime. This is comment no 108 on your article. Think about if we could discuss this good energy stuff as it is shown in the picture with all the hands you published…how many more minds wouldnt be joining in on this message. Then this could easily be comment no 1.008. And one comment coming from 50 regions in the world that doesnt speak or read English. You might feel it as spam when I encourage you to check up the twitter or web on glocialmedia.com but I am not in the business of selling you guys anything…I am buiyng attention in order to make social media become glocial media as soon as possible by tickeling senses here and there. It is moving on but I want to live that day when it is in operation.

  108. Jay Philips Monday, June 8, 2009

    Great tips. People should also keep in mind that what is said on the net stays on the net and spreads like wildfires.

  109. Slam-Dunk Networking With Twitter Monday, June 8, 2009

    [...] up the game and Twitter will become your buddy in networking, as it has become mine. Aliza’s 10 Golden Rules of Social Media also gives some great tips that you can apply to Twitter. Find us on Twitter [...]

  110. Check it out! 06/09/2009 | Feed for the Brain Tuesday, June 9, 2009

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  111. PromoteExpert » Speedlinking – 10 Posts I Read Today Tuesday, June 9, 2009

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  112. You are so totally on the mark. Wish I could “copy and Paste” this verbatim into 140 characters. I can’t but I will retweet this.

    Thanks for this post – well done.

  113. Uncarved » 10 Golden Rules of Social Media Sunday, June 14, 2009

    [...] A summary from Web Worker Daily’s 10 Golden Rules of Social Media: [...]

  114. Real-life Twitter Business Success Stories Tuesday, June 16, 2009

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  115. iLibrarian » 10 Golden Rules of Social Media Wednesday, June 17, 2009

    [...] Sherman at Web Worker Daily writes about the 10 Golden Rules of Social Media and invites others to debate and refine them. Here are her top [...]

  116. So true! Thank you for consolidating such timely/timeless wisdom.

  117. “Just Do It”

    All of this social networking stuff is amazing, but for those who don’t naturally “get it,” I would say just give it a try!

    I have lived amongst and around social networking for a while, but I am only starting to get more bold with it recently. I’m trying not to second-guess my comments and what I want or have to share…Just Do It :)

    Someone out there is thankful for your two cents.

  118. ScienceBlogs Channel : Technology | BlogCABLE.COM Saturday, June 20, 2009

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  119. Radionomy Aide » Créer une communauté autour de sa webradio : Monday, June 22, 2009

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  120. Rebel Librarian Monday, June 22, 2009

    To the second point, I would add a “think first” component.

    A good example relates to the recent protests in Iran. A proxy IP address was circulating around Facebook to help protesters in Iran to get around the government’s attempts to block access to certain websites. Soon enough, some helpful but foolish person published that IP on Twitter, and the server was quickly blocked.

    Moral of the story: Think first, or risk doing more harm than good.

  121. 10 golden rules of Social Media « Talk Digital Monday, June 22, 2009

    [...] golden rules of Social Media Some colleagues from Webworkerdaily wrote about the 10 golden rules of social media. Here they [...]

  122. On The Same Page » Rules of social media. Tuesday, June 23, 2009

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  123. The New York Times is now following you on Twitter! How can we help you? « I Have No Idea What I am Doing Thursday, July 2, 2009

    [...] prom. Fine, human tweets. She also shared a few social media links that were not so savvy, like 10 Golden Rules of Social Media, which is just a poor concept. The first rule of social media is that there are no rules of social [...]

  124. Breaking Out of Your Shell: How to Overcome Social Media Shyness Monday, July 6, 2009

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  125. Why sponsored Conversations are Payola 2.0 — Transplanted Tuesday, July 7, 2009

    [...] in an attempt to codify what has long been practiced. My favorite is still Aliza Sherman’s “10 Golden Rules of Social Media”, which I have in front of me every time I open WordPress. What’s missing, however, is some kind [...]

  126. Joseph C. McDaniel Wednesday, July 8, 2009

    As an old (60) Arizona bankruptcy attorney who has just recently started blogging, facebooking, linkedining, and so on, I don’t know whether to be happy or sad that I think I understand the difference between “real retweeting, not spammy retweeting”. I don’t know how to do either one at this point, but I think I understand the distinction.

    I feel a little like a newcomer to the Alaskan community learning 374 new words for the different kinds of snow!

  127. Guide to good blogging « My Block Thursday, July 16, 2009

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  128. CodeCruncher Links 09/08/2009 « Teaching and Learning Tuesday, September 8, 2009

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  129. Freelance In 40 Days [Day 20]: Twitter, Stumbleupon and Freelancing – The Freelance Rant Thursday, October 1, 2009

    [...] 10 Golden Rules of Social Media Like the Ten Commandments, you need to know and follow these to the letter when using social media. [...]

  130. 93 Most Popular Articles of Top Job Search and Career Blogs | JobMob Tuesday, October 20, 2009

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  131. Fundsache: 10 goldene Regeln im Social Media | Ecommerce Fachwissen Tuesday, October 20, 2009

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  132. Le 10 Regole d’Oro per usare Social Media | E' arrivato l'Arrotino… del Web! Thursday, November 12, 2009

    [...] di Social Media oggi, prendendo spunto dal semplicissimo ma splendido articolo di Aliza Sherman “10 Golden Rules of Social Media.” Lo condivido in pieno, ma sono certo che molti di voi penseranno abbia abusato con la grappa [...]

  133. Swiss JHG Photo Sunday, December 13, 2009

    Interesting article, which actually 5 or 10 years ago was not even in the minds of anyone… will be interesting to see the update in 5 to 10 years further, when we’ll all have more experience about it

    1. I’m always interested in how the “rules” change over the years. The most valid ones don’t have an expiration date. Most of these rules are identical to what I used in the 90s. What are the new ones to add, I wonder?

      1. I think listening and respecting others will always be good rules to live by, not matter what medium you use to communicate :)

  134. Should Eugad include Social Media Operarators in their Stakeholders? « Eugad – global development agenda Sunday, December 20, 2009

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  135. Neptune Plumbing Friday, December 25, 2009

    Thanks for sharing these rules. I agree with some of the comments; that good rules will stay valid throughout time, regardless of how the medium changes.

  136. 10 Things to Do Before the New Year Tuesday, December 29, 2009

    [...] Review your social media strategy. Whether you blog, tweet or update your statuses in Facebook and LinkedIn, having a plan in place ensures you remember to provide value to others rather than focus on you. Your plan doesn’t have to be formal; just one that gives you direction to keep you on track. Also, think about how much time you spend in social media, which is more about return on relationships than direct ROI. This might be a good time to review Aliza’s 10 Golden Rules of Social Media. [...]

  137. Phenomenal!! How you put these “10 Golden Rules” is number one easy for people to understand and two very real and true to the social media forum. I will absolutely follow and share your insight and engaging conversation from here on out. Thank you!

  138. [...] Review your social media strategy. Whether you blog, tweet or update your statuses in Facebook and LinkedIn, having a plan in place ensures you remember to provide value to others rather than focus on you. Your plan doesn’t have to be formal; just one that gives you direction to keep you on track. Also, think about how much time you spend in social media, which is more about return on relationships than direct ROI. This might be a good time to review Aliza’s 10 Golden Rules of Social Media. [...]

  139. WWD’s 2009 in Review, Part 1 Thursday, December 31, 2009

    [...] released a BlackBerry app and Box.net also received some web worker-friendly updates. Aliza shared her 10 Golden Rules of social media, while Dawn wrote about the tools that she uses to monitor real-time information on [...]

  140. When Is “Free” Too Much of a Good Thing? Saturday, January 2, 2010

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  141. Free is not cheap | SysNet consulting Sunday, January 3, 2010

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  142. Réseaux sociaux/outils collaboratifs (23/06/09) « pintiniblog Sunday, January 3, 2010

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  143. Revisiting 10 Golden Rules of Social Media Tuesday, January 5, 2010

    [...] Aliza Sherman No CommentsTweet This As 2010 opens its doors, I wanted to take another look at my Golden Rules of Social Media, published back in May of 2009, to see if I could consolidate those rules into five actions we can [...]

  144. ソーシャルメディアの黄金律10 « 日本にソーシャルメディアの風を! Wednesday, January 6, 2010

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  145. A New Year…A New You! « The Title Princess Thursday, January 7, 2010

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  146. Revisiting 10 Golden Rules of Social Media-Sosyal Medya’nın 10 Altın Kuralına Tekrar Ziyaret « Hopla Dedegi: Let ideas talk, let them walk… Friday, January 8, 2010

    [...] Posted on 08/01/2010. Filed under: Social Media-Sosyal Medya | Tags: revisiting 10 golden rules of social media, sosyal medyanın 10 altın kuralına tekrar ziyaret | May 26th, 2009 (7:00am) Aliza Sherman I know, I know — it’s a bit presumptuous of me to think I can write the “10 Golden Rules of Social Media.” Then again, I’ve been online since 1987, consulting clients on the Internet since 1992, on the web since 1994, immersed in working on and speaking about the web since the mid-1990s, so I do feel like I’ve paid some dues and learned some lessons along the way.So here are my 10 Golden Rules of Social Media to embrace, debate, pass around and refine. Have at it. Read More-Devamını Oku [...]

  147. I totally agree with all the rules you’ve said! I hate all those spam tweets and direct message. Really adds no value to anyone. Sharing information is the real point of social media.

  148. Ten Steps To Twitter Zen – The Freelance Rant Friday, January 8, 2010

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  149. The rules of the game: 10 Golden Rules of Social Media « 1000petals… Tuesday, January 19, 2010

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  150. 8 Guides For Becoming a Power Business Social Networker – GigaOM Monday, January 25, 2010

    [...] 10 Golden Rules of Social Media: What do you need to know from an overview perspective to make the best business use of online social tools? In this post, you’ll find excellent tips on how to listen properly using these tools, the manners surrounding them, and more.  This collection provides more useful information along these lines. [...]

  151. Italy and Social Media – Catching up in Style? | E' arrivato l'Arrotino… del Web! Wednesday, January 27, 2010

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  152. Humanities Mashup « Jessica's English 753 Blog Friday, January 29, 2010

    [...] Sherman asserts that “We are social media,” a phrase that alludes to Penn State’s slogan, “We are Penn State,” which may have started as a response to segregation within college football. Sherman’s statement reminds us that we (humans) create and participate in social media, and perhaps that it is open for all – despite our ideas or constructed identities being reduced to a a digitial form (often by our digits first typing our thoughts). [...]

  153. Amanda Quraishi Friday, January 29, 2010

    I absolutely loved this post and I included it in our Week In Review today: http://blog.upspringbaby.com/2010/01/29/week-in-review-january-29-2010/

  154. Thoughts on Reading Week One – Post Two « Living The Grad School Life Friday, January 29, 2010

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  155. ENG 753, Week 1; Blog: The First « Nefarious Fiddlesticks Friday, January 29, 2010

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  156. Kim Leslie’s PR Blog » Social Media and Crisis Communication (Chapter 12) Monday, February 8, 2010

    [...] the conversation about an organization and end a crisis before it begins. Listening, one of “The 10 Golden Rules of Social Media,” is something proactive an organization can do to prevent a crisis. During a [...]

  157. Home Improvement Tips Monday, February 15, 2010

    If everyone follow the above rules, there’s will be no spam

  158. Social Media: An Unavoidable Factor in Crisis Communication « First Reaction Wednesday, March 24, 2010

    [...] have far better and more long-lasting positive results,” Aliza Sherman said in her post “10 Golden Rules of Social Media”. A quick response with the information that the public want to know after learning what they [...]

  159. Fundraising Headlines – October 26, 2009 | Fundraising Headlines Saturday, April 24, 2010

    [...] 10 Golden Rules of Social Media (Nonprofit Online News) Yes, the title is linkbait, but I like it anyway. Aliza Sherman has been doing this almost as long as I have and her digestion of 20 plus years of experience into 10 Golden Rules of Social Media are utterly simple and powerful. They could easily be a checklist for any social media project or campaign: http://webworkerdaily.com/2009/05/26/10-golden-rules-of-social-media/ [...]

  160. 10 Golden Rules of Social Media | Printed By Erik Friday, May 28, 2010

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  161. The Rules of Social Media | Saturday, May 29, 2010

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  162. Club Penguin Monday, May 31, 2010

    Still all the time devoted along the way and mistakes made really enforced the rules you set above. Especially your first rule about the spirit of the net.

  163. very valueble observations. Internet is not for marketing and selling. Nowadays internet becomes a huge market. We can join together against this evil
    Similarly social webssites become the ground for meaningless talk. Tnis is also great truoble

  164. Right on! I just did a post somewhat similar on my blog, comparing the rules of social media to the rules of Facebook. The main focus is your #2 point, listening. I agree with you that it is the key to success.

  165. I couldn’t agree more with your list. This was an excellent read with wholesome content that came straight from wisdom. Thank you for sharing this, I am going to pass on the words to those I know.

  166. Some of the great tips about social media I learned today!

    thanks Aliza.. I really enjoy this.

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